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I've been lurking here for years and finally decided to officially join. I'm out of options and don't know what to do or where to turn. I'll keep it brief.
Single disabled mom of three. Ex found guilty of abuse, finally after 10 years of calls, begging someone, anyone, to do something. No criminal charges and he is appealing. He's also suing me for visitation and this battle has been going on for over two years. Legal aid refuses to help me. It has to do with the county in which we live. In any other county they would take a case like mine, but in this general geographic area, they do not. No one will tell me why, it's just the system. If I lived 70-100 miles east, I could have legal representation. I'm hearing impaired and no one told me I could have an interpreter or anything and so I sat in a bunch of hearings not being able to understand anything. But now when I request service, they usually don't show up.
We need HOUSING!!!! We need to move out of this area. We have no friends or family and no type of support system at all. It's just my children and me leaning on each other. The people in this region are very unfriendly and don't like outsiders even though we've been here 15 years. This place is like the Twilight Zone and I'm not kidding. The house we live in is filled with mold and asbestos and needs a ton of other repairs. Even Section 8 won't complain to the landlord because he'll just evict me rather than make repairs and we have nowhere to go. Rentals are scarce and no one wants to accept Section 8. The house has made me even sicker and is making my children ill too.
Plus it's very expensive to maintain. We have oil heat and hot water. I ran up $250.00 electric bills this year with portable electric heaters to save the oil for hot water. My children and I sleep in one room for the heat and I turn it on twice a day for 10 minutes to keep the pipes from freezing especially upstairs. The temps are still below freezing at night here. Plus my disease hates cold weather and is made worse by it. I have to stay warm but can't. This makes me unable to move and makes my limbs freeze up. Right now we only have a little left and I don't know how we'll survive without hot water. I have special needs children and hot water is a necessity and we need more than a pot boiled on the stove. There are no laundromats and I don't have a car to get there. All of the oil companies want a minimum of 100 gallons delivery which equates to almost all of my SSI check. I have difficulty with stairs which is where the bathroom is so I'm forced to have a potty chair in the living room. Gross, I know. Who lives like this?
We need a car desperately. I've been on FCC for over a year and still haven't gotten one. I was unable to get on there for several months last year because my children and I were in and out of the hospital but I vote several times a week. I used to vote faithfully every day but I know that isn't going to get you a car. No one in my area ever gets a car. There is no public transportation where we live. I have to walk to the grocery store and pharmacy. When you have the health problems that I have, it's not easy to do. There are no sidewalks where I live and since I can't hear, it's very dangerous for me. I've had pneumonia twice since September. I have to go out in all kinds of weather and since I can't carry a lot even with a basket, I have to go every other day. I can't afford to take a taxi and my neighbors won't give me a ride even though I've helped all of them at one time or another. They see me struggling on the side of the road with my bags and they just wave as they ride by. I can't do it anymore. I can't! I tried to get a car loan, not knowing how I would even pay it but I don't meet the minimum income requirements. And I tried several places that specialize in bad credit and bankruptcies! My SSI is meant for one, not four.
We need a car to get out of this house and out of this area. If my ex wins his appeal, they will reinstate visitation and the abuse will start up again. My kids can't go through that again. They have suffered enough at his hands!
We are good people. Kind, friendly, compassionate and caring. We don't deserve what we are going through and I only touched the surface of what our lives are like. There is so much more going on but I am a private person and don't like asking for help. I know there are plenty of others in worse situations than mine. I don't like pity. But I DO need help.
I'm sure I'll edit this later but I wanted to get something out there. I hope that I can help and inspire others. I've been to hell and back several times in my life. I've always had an optimistic outlook and am very spiritual. For the first time in my life, I truly feel hopeless. I am not comfortable with that and with the thoughts that go along with that feeling. Everyone needs hope. Everyone needs something to look forward to. My children and I don't. It scares the hell out of me. I pray and put everything in God's hands. But even my faith is wavering because things have been so bad for so long. It's hard to raise your children as Christians when they have never known kindness, goodness, compassion and love (except from me, of course). In their short lives they've experienced more bad than good. They ask me where the Blessings are. I teach them to have a grateful heart and they do. But then something else bad happens.
On a more practical note, I have contacted every agency I could find locally, have scoured the internet, tried our local churches and any charities to no avail. No one is willing to help us. Not just with a car, but with anything. We use a food pantry and again, I'm grateful, but most of what we receive is expired or is stuff no one would want like canned yams and wasabi sauce.
I'm not unintelligent. I work very hard every day trying to get us out of this situation. I want to try to go back to school to lift us out of poverty but I need a laptop for that. I don't even know if my health would allow me to attend school but I have to try to get my degree! It's the only way. My health certainly won't get better in this house but we need a car to get out. It a chicken or egg thing. Can't get one without the other.
I'm not asking for a hand out. Far from it. I learned long ago that no one is going to give me anything in this life. What I am asking for is information and leads to agencies that might be able to help me as well as information on housing. If anyone knows of available housing on the eastern seaboard, the Carolinas, Virginia, PA, NJ, DE, GA, MD, please let me know. For health reasons my ideal location would be Arizona which isn't possible at this time. I need to get into a warmer climate. Even moving 70 miles east of where I am now would improve my health (as well as getting out of this mold pit).
It's bad enough to have no friends or family but then it is compounded by my lack of transportation. That is why I am reaching out here for help.
Thanks for reading my story. Blessings and prayers for all.
On 11/29/10 1:33PM Reggie From FreeCharityCars called telling me I won an 2001 SUV Pontiac. I am just in shock and now to do many things to get the paper work into them. Plus take time to soak it all in.
Have a great week and now to get some rest - I hope.
Hey everyone~ LONG TIME since I wrote on here, but I do read the stuff here, briefly when I come on here.
My problems have only elevated since oct 09 when I wrote last, I think...geez...was it so long ago when I have been right here? Well, here is my issue on here...I cannot seem to find what I am emailed from here about! It will give something like 62 aids or 10 or 46 or whatever...then I come here and there is only my page. I do not understand! Can someone help? I would appreciate it greatly.
I have a story. Someone came on my page and told me they could not find my story...so I am confused!!
My son has moved to the south and back again, at the expense of a few family members. He and his family are having a very rough time for a while now. He works hard every day at his job...He and his wife and kids all stayed at my home for 2 weeks before they went south, but when they came back, they moved back in for 3 weeks! It wasn't too bad.
So, now my issues are the same, only a little worse. ;-( I stay grateful with my attitude of thanks to God.
I still need a car!!!! I have been 3 1/2 years since I have not had a vehicle. I am being controlled by my husband, by his keeping me right where he wants me...and I hate it.I feel as if I am in prison! I hardly ever go anywhere except my yard in the country now, and I stay in the house most days. It is so complicated...I am very depressed and unhappy, but I am in no shape physically to clean...I need on disability~ but that is complicated with time and so many things I have wrong from head to toe.
I was diagnosed with Diabetes 2 last Nov and now, I need insulin! I do not have the money for the doctor, and that is at the cheap clinic here. I take about 15 drugs a day for what I have wrong!Now that is not counting the insulin.
So, my grandkids birthdays leave me embarrassed because I cannot buy...and Christmas is out of the question. They are only 2 and 5. We have no money for living, let alone toys and stuff.
Maybe I am doing my story here?! LOL
we have a family of four and we are searching for a free or low cost vehicle. we have one vehicle that stays broke down more often now than we get to drive it! and my fiance is on the verge of loosing his job due to not being able to make it to work because of this. our son and daughter are about to start back to school and i need a way to come and go if i may need to get them or go to them for unexpected reasons. im on disability and a stay at home mom. but i need to do things while the family is away throughout the day and i have no other way. we are really tied to our responsibilities and want to do the best by our kids. so if you could find it in your heart to help some pretty down trottened everyday, american, christian folks we would so appriciate the helping hand that you extend to us. You will be in our prayers that the right one the Lord has chosen for us, will answer this request that we have sent out to you. God bless you all.
Please someone help me I need a car badly I will travel to get it I really need one to get me and my 2 kids around to doctors appointments, grocery store, support group, daycare, kids taking back and for to see there fatheres. I am a single mother with not much money if someone out there has a big heart and can donate the car to me or something (Please a running one or at least not bad off)
I would appreciate it alot. I am located in Dover, Delaware Please call or text me 302-344-6089
Im a 22yr Old Mother of a beautiful 3yr old, I dropped out of school in 11th grade and have regret it everyday of my life. I was with her father since I was 12 yrs old, we got married right before I turned 21. Ive always done things myself, got my first car, my first house without the help of my parents, after I turned 21 me and my husband split and the freedom that I had was just so new to me! I took advantage, and started to party way to much, I met a guy that ws in the army, he left to go back to Iraq a week later and I decided to wait for him, and I did honeslty faithful to this man and everything, so he gets back and he was sooo messed up He drank way to much so I started drinkin with him, he was violent and mean and always wanted to drink, he head butted me, totaled my car pretty much messed my life up, well I did but I let it happen because I loved him. So now I find myself single and In arizona bymyself without my daughter! But I had to come to get myself thinking clearly again and I am She is in texas with her dad, who is a great guy, and im about to go back, im sober, and I hope to stay that way but my family is violent and mean so they wont help me im going to live with my friend carrie who says she can get me a job as a receptionist, I just hope this comes through cause if not ill find myself in the same spot as when I left, I just need some help in staying on the right track and a ride to work hopefully i have the job but i dont know. Her house is only one bedroom and its in a little town called princeton, and there is only a sonic and mcdonalds and really no opportunity im just ready to go back and be the mother i used to be, but i just dont know about my living conditions and a car?
I am 28 years old and a single mother of two wonderful boys, they are 3 and 12. I had a hard time growning up and had my first child when I was 15. I have been suggling to find who I am since then. When I was 23 I moved back in with my mother because I was in a bad relationship and was also carry a new baby. I have been putting my life back together since that happend. I finally found a good job and had steady child support coming in also. Then the ression hit and I lost my job in March 2009. I also am finishing up my schooling in Massage therapy, which I started in Sept. of 2009. So everything was good until I lost my job and my child support stopped also. I am not one that likes to ask for help, but I fear if I do not get out of this small town I am in, I will not get the job I need to take of my boys and I. I have the skills and experience to get a good job, I just don't have a way to get there. My mother has been so kind as to share her car with me, but she needs it as much as I do. We live 30 to 45 minutes away from any major cities and that means I would have to drive there to find a well paying job. In short, I am in need of a car. I have the money to put a down payment down, but don't have a job and also have bad credit. I am just trying to live a fair life with my boys and I. If there is anyone that can help please do so! Thank you
This sucks, even if they're not children, they're my babies.... and this is making me feel like a bad mother. One of my poor kitties is having an allergic reaction, I think to some of the molds in the house, and has lost half of his fur! Poor kitty. I posted on Wish Upon a Hero about it, but I don't know what to do. This sucks. I'm sick. They're sick. I have no car and no place to go just yet.... I'm loosing my mind.
I don't know how much more of this I can handle. I had an appointmnt with a free lawyer today and couldn't make it. I was still feeling ill and my toothahe is just awful, but I was goingo go anyway--- until ride A fell through, possible ride b and c didn't work, and I didn't have enough money for the three busses it would have taken to get there. At east I was responsible enough to call and reschedule.
The lack of transportation is horrible in a city that is spread out. I was lucky enough to be given a bus pass by a friend last year, which sved me more than a thousnd dollars in bus fair after my car broke don beyond what one should repair. I tried to have a good attitude about it, and take itas an opportunity to learn a new way to get around. Now I have now way to get around, and no way to get out of hee now that it's really time to move.
I don't want to be one of those sad stories; one of those brilliant people that just get lost in the world somehow. I'm scared that something will happen to me, and years later someone will find all my writing and wonder what I could have done if things had been different.
39 days until I'm homeless.
It's funny to me, how sad I will be to leave this place. Really it's just a one room studio- but it's the only place I have in the world right now that's "mine". The reality however, is that anytime you rent anything, it's not really yours. Someday I'd like to have a little house of my own, so I don't have to feel like my enviornment is so contoled by an outside organization that is more likely to have their interests at heart.
Now that the place appears to be clean, it's hard to keep to a difficult decision. I can't stay in a place that has a high propensity to flood, both from a creek that runs by the door and from the septtic tank. My landlord did get me a carpet cleaner...but 24 hours after the place had flooded with sewage.... so I cleaned most of it up myself because I didn't want my kitties getting into it.
I'm laying down on a tiny couch in the one room apartment I have to move out to move out of as soon as I can find a way. There was a big plumbing problem in the building, and my place flooded. I had to clan a lot of it up myself, and got sick. Now, with no money, I'm trying to figure out how to move me and my cats to a safer, better enviornment.
I'm exhausted, but I can't sleep. On top of the situation at hand I have a horrible toothache. Finally I have gotten some state benifits, but they will only cover dental stuff if it's an emergency- so I've had to wait till now to even be able to get an appointment. Someone will see me Monday... I'm so relieved...but in a lot of pain. I don't know how to get throug till then...but I will.
Somehow, regardless, I have to pack, and figure something out. I have no car. I only moved to the state I'm in a little while ago, and have few resources here. I need somehow to come up with the resources to travel with my pets and my stuff, and go back to New Orleans whre my heart is.